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What should men look like, what should they do, what should they not do? There has been a certain kind of thinking about this since the beginning of the world.
There may be some differences in different parts of the world based on different cultures and religions, but the concept of men is the same.
All of us have been hearing certain things about the image of men in our homes or from people around us or from movies for generations.
Like a man does not suffer, a boy cries even though he is a man, he is beaten even as a boy, he wears bangles, and so on.
The idea that earning money and running the house is a man's responsibility, men can do all the hard work, men make the final decision on any matter in the house has become a part of our social thinking.
Dr. Ameer Sultana, a professor in the Department of Women's Studies at Punjab University, calls it a "social construct," meaning it is a product of society.
Speaking to the BBC, she said, "This kind of thinking about men is created by society and has nothing to do with nature."
"This is why we also see that different societies have different definitions of masculinity.
But most of them have one thing in common and that is - men are powerful and they make the final decisions."
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When the #Metoo campaign started around the world in 2018, a specific term was coined for this kind of mentality about men.
And that particular term was "toxic masculinity."
You can understand this by saying that if you think you are a man, you must look a certain way.
Men are strong and women are weak, you think you should not only accept this but also show it in your behavior.
If you think like this, you are not particularly masculine, but you are a man with 'toxic masculinity'.
Then a different question arises - "If the thought that has been going on about men for centuries is not masculinity and it is toxic masculinity, then what is masculinity in the true sense?"
In an attempt to find an answer to this question, a new term has started to be used and that is healthy or positive masculinity.
Gary Barker, CEO and co-founder of the Equimundo Center for Masculinities and Social Justice, is also the co-founder of MenCare and MenEngage.
MenCare is a global organization operating in more than 50 countries whose main objective is to encourage men to take on caring responsibilities.
MeningEngage is a global coalition of over 700 NGOs from around the world.
Gary Barker is co-founder of the International Men and Gender Equality Survey.
It is the largest ever survey of thoughts on topics such as men's behaviour, fatherhood, violence and gender equality.
Gary Barker shares his thoughts on the BBC's Reels.
What does it mean to be a good man?
Speaking to BBC Reels, he said that men themselves are in a dilemma about what it means to be a good man.
Barker found in his survey that when men take care of each other in the family, the whole family benefits.
According to him, positive masculinity is an antidote to anti-woman toxic thinking.
He said that the easiest way to make men aware of any sexual harassment or anti-women jokes is to make them aware that they should immediately raise their voice against it.
He said that when a man comes to know that some other man has committed sexual violence in his office or among his friends or relatives, he should raise his voice against it.
Ameer Sultana from the Department of Women's Studies of Punjab University also believes that if something is wrong with women and girls in the society, men should raise their voice against it. According to him, this is positive masculinity.
Giving an example of this, he says, "If you are a man and you have the right to make decisions at home, if you can ask for dowry in marriage, then that is positive masculinity."
